The Difference Between Mentors And Coaches: What Can A Mentor Do For You?

The Difference Between Mentors And Coaches: What Can A Mentor Do For You?

With all of life’s hardships, sometimes we all need a helping hand and a guiding voice. Whether you’re older and knowledgeable or younger and inexperienced, there is nothing wrong with asking for some guidance when you need it. After all, sometimes the right kind of support can help you rise above your problems and soar.

Difference Between Mentors And Coaches

When you look for help, one of the best choices you can make is to turn to a mentor. A good mentor can listen to what’s hindering you, understand how you are feeling and do their best to help you navigate life’s obstacles.

However, when looking for help, you might also turn to a coach, which brings up an important question; what exactly is the difference between a mentor and a coach? Furthermore, how can consulting with a mentor help you?

What Are The Differences Between Mentors And Coaches?

While both mentors and coaches can be significantly beneficial to you, they are both different and can help you in various ways. While things can change on a case-to-case basis, some key factors to note are:

Mentoring Is More Focused On Your Relationship

Mentoring generally focuses more on you and your life rather than achieving a specific goal or completing a particular task. A great mentor helps you navigate life’s obstacles while connecting with you and offering you support and advice when you need it.

Some characteristics of mentoring are:

Mentorships Are Long-Term. Because mentors are often there to help you deal with your life with a long term view, mentors’ relationships with their mentees can often extend into years.

Working with your mentor for an extended period can be highly beneficial because your mentor will genuinely know you. Instead of just walking in and speaking to a stranger for an hour, your mentor will have time to get to know you and develop a solid mentor-mentee relationship with you. With this firm, understanding relationship built on trust, you can receive better, more personalised help.

Coaching Is Often Short-Term. While this can change depending on your needs, your coach and what you are trying to accomplish, coaching sessions are usually shorter than mentorship ones.

Mentoring Is Less Structured. Instead of walking into a meeting with a specific, immediate issue or goal, you can simply talk to your mentor and work through your problems. While having set goals is recommended, you will not need to follow a rigorous schedule. Instead, you can have a wider focus on your life and how you feel.

Coaching Is More Structured. Unlike mentoring, coaching is often much more structured, with short (1 hour) meetings over a period of months. Because coaches are trying to help you achieve specific goals, a structure can benefit you, your progress and your coach.

Mentoring Is Development-Driven. When you work with a mentor, they will not tell you what you should want; instead, they will help you understand and figure out what is best for you. As a result, you will be able to not only focus on your own life and your own goals, but you will learn strategies that you can use again when needed. With the help of your trustworthy mentor, you can achieve these goals healthily and successfully, and build your own skill set for an approach that works for you.

Coaching Is More Focused On Your Tasks.

Coaching is mainly focused on making specific changes or taking particular actions to achieve an immediate to short term result. Coaching services can help you achieve better work and personal relationships, become a better leader, improve your communication skills and more.

Coaching Is Performance-Driven. A coach will help you fulfil specific goals, so they will encourage you to take action to perform better in your day-to-day life. You will focus on what you need to do, how you will do it and who can help you.

How Can A Mentor Help Me?

A mentor can help guide you through your issues, focus on your goals and overcome challenges to make change. This can be achieved through offering you expert advice or simply by speaking with you and helping you work through your current state, with the future in mind.

At People Possibilities, we understand how exciting, challenging and difficult life can be at times. We are happy to provide New Zealanders with a wonderful mentoring experience that will help you achieve a more satisfying life.

By getting in touch with us, signing a set contract, setting appointment times and taking that first step, you can improve your life and receive help from an experienced mentor who will always have your best interests in mind.

Where Can I Find A Helpful And Understanding Mentor To Help Me?

If you would like the incredibly beneficial help of an experienced mentor, our team at People Possibilities is here to assist you in any way we can. We understand that sometimes life can be challenging, and we want to do our best to help you through your challenges and growth.

Do you want to speak to our team, ask about our services or go ahead and start the journey towards connecting with your own mentor? If so, please get in touch with us at [email protected] or text/call 029 2821 736.

Sometimes, we can all use a bit of help from a trusted mentor. So, improve your life by receiving advice and guidance from us at People Possibilities.

Suggestions For An Effective Leadership Approach Through Change

Suggestions For An Effective Leadership Approach Through Change

I was chatting with a talented woman I had met at an event a few weeks ago about the amount of change occurring in her workspace, which happens to be in the education sector. 

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She said that new legislation went live late last year which means significant change for schools’ governance and leadership, and asked me if I had been involved in any of that work. I was honest and said that the education sector was one I was not familiar with (other than as a parent quite some time ago,) but that it didn’t matter which sector, such changes require strong leadership to be successful.

When leaders must implement significant change, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that they must do everything themselves; that there’s only one way of doing it (generally, theirs); and that all the right levers have to be in place before making a start. When the person in the hot seat is more concerned with maintaining their status through power and control, and looking good, the opportunity to lead effectively is diminished. Those hot seaters tend to exhibit low levels of self-awareness around their own behaviours, and how those behaviours impact their direct teams and work environment, which in turn influences the eventual outcome of the change. 

In my experience, it’s much easier to start where you’re at right now. There will never be a perfect starting point. The ducks are never sitting and waiting in an orderly row. The temperature gauge will still fluctuate. Waiting for those perfect conditions will just delay the work to be done, and potentially add extra pressure where there are deadline expectations to meet. It will also leave your staff/clients/customers/beneficiaries of the change wondering what will happen, and when. That’s when we lose trust, commitment, and belief, which always makes the change journey harder. Keep them on the bus!

1. It’s Not A One-Person Job

Leaders generally have a range of skills, experience, and expertise to contribute to any task or project. The biggest mistake (and risk) is thinking they can, or have to, do everything themselves. Talk with a range of people whose diverse thinking, expertise and experience might be useful, and get a team around you to set off on the change journey. Make sure to include the people who will be impacted by the change. Showing vulnerability and asking for help is not a weakness. It’s much easier to work with a human that displays characteristics like empathy, motivation, curiosity and excitement with a current reality lens than a superhuman with a preference for working on their own, perpetuating a perception that they don’t need anyone else to help them because ‘they’ve got this.’

2. Change Is About People

Change is hard. The mention of a change process or program often instigates feelings of fear and mistrust (and sometimes doom) because of previous experiences of change done badly. When we need to make a change, the biggest time investment should be in our people. They are the ones who will make the change successful. I sometimes think we don’t give our people enough credit, or permission. Our people are not defined by the job they have, they are defined by the opportunities they take. Let them be creative, and to conjure up amazing ideas and suggestions. Encourage them to be more than their job description. Empower them to take a lead, regardless of their perceived role or status. Acknowledge that they are all in positions of influence, both positive and negative, and that letting people be their authentic selves can help them become your biggest advocates.

3. Communication Is Key

Leaders provide vision and direction, and even though neither of those may be clear at the beginning, communicating everything you can as early and simply as you can will more likely bring your people along with you. Being in it together is more important than ‘winning’ a particular outcome early on. Communicating everything you can, as soon as you can, helps to grow trust and transparency. Be clear when you can’t share certain information, and why. An effective leader is a trusted member of the team. Above all, be consistent to avoid second guessing, and rumours filling any information gaps.

4. Celebrate!

Measuring progress and acknowledging successes, no matter how small, is something we Kiwis need to get better at. In our busyness and pressured environments, we tend to just accept a quick win by adding it to a report or a performance appraisal, and carry on. We tend to focus on the next thing, because time is short, and pressure is high. Being able to pause, recognise the win, maybe reflect on what made it successful so the formula could be repeated, and what we could do better makes us more conscious and think deliberately about what works and how we can do more of the good stuff. Plus, people love to celebrate and be recognised for their contribution. Saying a genuine ‘thank you’ and ‘good job’ is leadership gold. And food. Don’t forget the social interactions and opportunities that we associate with sharing kai. 

5. Keep Your Cup Filled

Being a leader requires energy and commitment. Energy to spend on your people and all the things that keep them supported, focused, and moving forward, and commitment to be there for the long haul. We often hear about staff wellbeing and what we are doing to support our people. That starts with us. If our own cup is not replenished, then it is hard to replenish the cups of others. Checking in on our own wellbeing is a must. How is your balance today? your mind/hinengaro, your body/tinana, your spirit/wairua, your family/whānau? What needs addressing before it escalates into something bigger? Practice what you speak, and lead by example. Your people watch you. All the time. Let them learn from you.

As a coach, it’s fairly common for me to work with people who either have low or no self-awareness of how their thinking influences their behaviour. When I ask them what they need, they often don’t know. Sometimes they have identified some things to work on through an assessment or program they have committed to. Working with these leaders is pretty satisfying, as insights are created, and actions are taken to increase their effectiveness. Because we leaders can’t achieve much at all on our own, it’s all about our people.

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Why Is It Important to Have a Life Coach?

Why Is It Important to Have a Life Coach?

While it does have its fair share of upsides, life isn’t always easy. In fact, it can be common for people to feel overwhelmed and anxious, especially in today’s current climate. Whether it’s pressure from your partner, your job, or even self-inflicted, if it isn’t properly dealt with, that pressure can intensify as time passes and weigh you down even more. 

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Being so consumed with everyday tasks and time-wasting concerns that consume us, makes it easy for life to simply pass us by. This is why a good life coach is a valuable asset to ensure you live a fulfilling life. We often say it’s easier looking in on a situation to see what’s right, compared to when you’re in the middle of it – when you’re stuck in a slump; so a life coach can be your person looking in. While we may struggle to fathom the limitless possibilities of our life when stuck in our ways of thinking, they’re a fresh set of eyes that can see everything more clearly from a new perspective and help you move your life forwards in ways you may not have thought of before. 

Find where to start

Sometimes things just feel too far out of your control so that you don’t even know where to begin moving forwards. It’s like trying to learn a new language without a teacher, while there’s an interest and a desire to learn, there’s also a lot to learn and without the proper guidance you may just end up chasing your tail and potentially giving up. Not having a good starting point and an insightful guide can undermine your goals or desires. 

Just like a language teacher would assist you by setting you on the right track and helping you whenever you get stuck, a life coach can help you get to the starting point and take actions that’ll lead you towards making your dreams and aspirations come true.

Discover the power of defined goals

Life coaches can help you if you’re struggling to achieve your goals. A life coach can guide you through setting and defining goals that will help you grow and move you towards your desired lifestyle goals, as well as assisting you in discovering meaningful reasons as to why you want to achieve them that can help motivate you through tough times. This is called “finding your WHY’.

On top of this, a good life coaches’ fresh perspective can help you in uncovering why you may not have been able to achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself in the past. They’ll help you work through this, and by guiding you through reorganising parts of your life, you’ll not only feel empowered, but you’ll also see that you’re able to develop beyond what you previously thought were your limitations.

Have the assurance that someone is with you every step of the way, whether they’re acting as your accountability partner or just there to see you through whatever issues are coming up for you, a good life coach can help you add more depth to your life.

Move past stress and anxiety

While we may wish it wasn’t so, there’s always going to be cause for stress somewhere throughout our lives. Whether it’s due to failing in a meaningful goal repeatedly or feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work you have to complete, stress is ready to add salt to the wound. While we can learn and grow as a person greatly through challenging times, being under constant stress or feeling anxious all the time isn’t good for our well-being, both mentally and physically. 

We all lead different lives and therefore have different things we’re in charge of, but if you add all your responsibilities together, it’s understandable why we can get so stressed and anxious. Feeling this way can make it seem like no matter how hard you work, you’ll never be on top of your workload, but having a life coach beside you that can look in from the outside and help give another perspective to your situation, can greatly aid you in moving past those disheartening notions. 

Rekindle lost passion

We all struggle sometimes and most of us have all probably given up on something at one point or another. If you’ve lost your zest for life, whether it’s because of a failure at work or a negative experience you’ve had, it can sometimes seem hard to get yourself back together and continue on like in earlier times when that spark may have helped you keep going. 

It’s vital to have someone there to help you redirect your energy  and rediscover your enthusiasm for whatever it is that floats your boat.. A life coach is there for you to help identify issues you’ve faced that may still be impacting your mental well-being, as well as uncovering truths that have motivated you in the past that helped get you where you are today. Without this kind of support and guidance, it can be really difficult to rediscover your passion for life once again by yourself.

If you’re interested in meeting a life coach to be with you on your journey every step of the way, contact us today

5 Essential Questions to Ask Your Marriage Celebrant

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5 Essential Questions to Ask Your Marriage Celebrant

Getting married is quite possibly one of, if not the most significant decision of your life! It’s an opportunity to declare love and commitment with your significant other, an entirely personal experience that needs to be planned with serious consideration.

Choosing the right marriage celebrant is a vital step to ensuring your big day goes smoothly, which is why we’re going to explore the 5 essential questions you need to ask before you tie the knot.

What Qualifications and Experience do you have?

Being a celebrant in New Zealand does require official appointment, and making sure you take the time to ask this is a crucial step. If you don’t choose an official celebrant you may run the risk of your marriage not being officially recognised or certified legally.

A good celebrant will usually have been performing weddings for some time and will be able to offer advice and suggestions based off previous ceremonies and experience. Although that’s not to say that you won’t find a celebrant that you feel comfortable with that hasn’t had as much experience, the most crucial thing is making sure you have a connection and clear communication with whoever you choose. 

What Are the Cost of Your Services? What is Included in This Fee?

Planning your big day comes with a lot of big costs and investments, so potentially the most important question you can ask is how much your celebrant’s fee is? Knowing the cost of their services is vital to planning your wedding budget, and at your first meeting you’ll want to discuss exactly what their costs will cover. Asking for details on what is included in your Marriage Celebrant fee is important to avoid any unexpected fees or costs, nobody likes having extra costs adding stress to their big day. Unexpected costs may include; travel to venues, supply of equipment such as speakers and microphones, or ceremony extras like candles or sand vessels. Understanding what is included in your celebrant’s services and negotiating price up front is important to creating a stress free day full of memories.

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What is Your Availability? What is Your Backup Plan?

It may seem trivial, but something that people often don’t consider or seem to overlook is the importance of booking your celebrant with plenty of advance notice. Nobody wants their big day to be full of stress and worry, so make sure you have plenty of time with your celebrant, and book their services well ahead of time. Consider asking your celebrant how many ceremonies they do in a day. If they have multiple ceremonies planned in a day, there is a risk of having your big moment rushed, so take the time to make sure they’re free for the whole day or at least allow for time for things to run over schedule. 

It’s usually a good idea to have a chat with potential celebrants regarding what plans they have in place in case they aren’t able to make it for whatever reason. We all have sick days, or extreme situations that occur out of our control, and wedding celebrants are no exception. Often they can provide a backup plan, otherwise you will want to know if you need to have a backup in place. Nobody wants to find a celebrant at the last minute!

What does your typical Ceremony look like?

Knowing what kind of ceremony you and your significant other want for your special day is a big part of the planning for your wedding. Choosing who will carry out the ceremony will be centred around the type of wedding you dream of. Every marriage celebrant has their own personal style and approach on how they carry out ceremonies, so it’s a great idea to discuss with them before your big day exactly what your expectations are and what theirs are of you. That way there’s no surprises or misunderstandings in creating a joy filled day of memories. Here at People Possibilities we can personalise every ceremony to each individual couple so that you have everything you’ve dreamed of for your special moment.

What do you require from Us?

So you’ve got through all these questions but there’s still a few things that you need to clarify before planning your big day. What is going to be required of you? While a lot of people enjoy the planning stage of their big day, others prefer to step back and have others organise it without the hassle. So who you choose to officiate on your wedding day will influence this. Some celebrants are able to write wedding vows and provide them for you if you don’t want to, some require you to organise your own PA system, others provide their own. 

So now that you know the 5 most essential questions to ask your marriage celebrant, you can continue with confidence to find the right person to make your special day an everlasting memory!